September 13, 2008 at 3:34 pm (Uncategorized)
Tags: erotic romance, research, erotic stories, sex
Lately, as life has been very hectic, I’ve used my scant spare time for research. Now I won’t tell you where I’ve been online, but let’s just say it’s been an education. As a social psychologist, one of my favorite things to do is observe body language. Well, my recent foray into research has taught me a few new things about men, as well as how and what they are thinking.
We all know men expend a great deal of time and energy thinking about sex, research has proven that over and over again. And we all know men are visual creatures. Hence they look at women, a lot, and just the sight of certain body parts will turn them on. Nothing new, we women know that’s what’s going on when men chance a glance down our blouses, or turn to watch our backsides as we walk away.
But what I found so interesting in my research, was the level of thought going on beneath the surface. And not just the ‘what do I need to say or do so I can get some of that‘ kind of thinking.
Men are spending time figuring out what their partner wants, and making sure she gets it - from him, first. Before his own pleasure. Men are very interested in being told by a woman what she wants and more than willing to comply in that department. For her, not just for him. They know they will experience pleasure, but my recent research has conveyed the depths to which they will go to be certain their partner experiences a great deal of pleasure as well, first and foremost.
Perhaps it is an adrenaline rush to know they can bring a woman to pleasure in a wild, wild way, perhaps it’s an ego thing. I’m not sure. But from what I’ve learned lately, it’s definitely not selfish.
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September 3, 2008 at 1:04 pm (Uncategorized)
Tags: Writing, erotic romance, erotic stories, lust, erotic writing, historical
Lust is a predominate motivator of human thought and action. Thank goodness for dark sunglasses to hide that longer than appropriate look at the guy with really nice muscles (and no shirt) you get to see out on his jog most mornings, or the guy in line ahead of you at the coffee shop, dressed in a pair of perfect fitting slacks. Now you know why guy always say “ladies first”. Sometimes the view from the back is…well, delicious.
No small thing, lust. It is why we kiss, why we touch…why we fantasize about that sweaty guy out on his morning jog suddenly stopping, pinning us against a tree and knowing just how we like to be kissed, and where. Or the man in the coffee shop dressed like the cover of a fashion magazine knowing just when to turn around, slide his gaze down our figure, look into our eyes and almost smile, letting us know he appreciates the way we look too.
Lust makes you want. Whether what you want is good for you or not, is not the point, nor does it matter. The fact is, you want. Lust has a language, an unspoken language, of it’s own. Guys are better at it, or not, depending on how you look at it than we girls are. Men can rarely hide the fact that they admire a woman’s form, or certain parts of it as the case may be, while women have a tendency to be more subtle when taking in her favorite particulars of a man’s body.
That language of mutual lust is what leads to eye contact, a smile, then repeated eye contact with broader smiles. And eventually if he’s confident enough, a conversation. Yes, lust has a language all its own. It hasn’t changed much in the last 30,000 years, but then again, neither has what we want at the end of the day, or during the day…
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August 13, 2008 at 3:43 am (Uncategorized)
Tags: erotic romance, naughty stories, erotic fantasy
To a certain extent, we all lead double lives. But as an author of erotic romance novels, at the end of the day the eyeglasses come off and the hair comes down.
One of my favorite parts of the writing process is the character arc. I love to discover the ways in which my heroes and heroines come to terms with who they are and bridge the gap to become who they want to be. I love a shy heroine who learns the lessons of passion and gives her hero a bold run for his money in her quest for her own happiness.
So tonight as the lights go down, know that I’ll be naughty by night.
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July 20, 2008 at 2:09 pm (Uncategorized)
Tags: erotic fantasy, erotic romance, naughty stories, Romance
Hands in the cookie jar five minutes before dinner? Naughty. Leaving your dirty clothes on the floor? Naughty. Dipping your spoon back into the ice cream container over and over again? Naughty. Getting naked? Now naughty takes on a whole new meaning.
And a nice one at that.
We all use our imagination to fulfill those longings for ‘things’ we wouldn’t normally do, but that secretly turn us on. While studies often report how many times men think about sex in a day, they often neglect the fact of fantasy. Men tend to think of the act, women tend to visualize all the slow and sensuous ‘getting there’ parts. Admit it or not, women use fantasy and daydreams as a means of escape during the day, and as a means of commiting acts she’s not brave enough to speak aloud. Although most every man would love to know, and be happy to re-enact, what’s going on his woman’s head as far as the bedroom arena.
That is the main reason we read romance, the very reason we read erotic romance.
Erotic romance fulfills those fantasies of all the things we wouldn’t normally do, with none of the ‘getting there’ bits left out. So the next time you want to be naughty, go for it. I’m sure you’ll find it quite nice.
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July 17, 2008 at 1:49 am (Uncategorized)
Tags: Romance, Writing, erotic romance, erotic stories, Add new tag, believe
Life has been more than hectic, hence the lack of posts for the last two months. But I am still writing. Working on several projects actually. Take it from me, if you’re a writer, you’ll write-regardless if you ever sell a book or not, regardless of how tired you are, you’ll find a way to write.
I wrote 4 or 5 stories (3 of which were single titles) before I sold my first book. Don’t consider yourself sunk if getting published takes a while. This is a tough business, and very few people sell their first book, or even every book they write. Many famous authors have received rejection letters, I know some with file drawers full.
In my case, the very first book I sold did not publish due to financial problems of the publisher. So even selling isn’t a 100% guarantee you’ll see your book in print, or for sale. So take heart.
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May 21, 2008 at 12:59 pm (Romance, Writing)
Tags: erotic romance, sexy stories
…From behind, a twig snapped. Sarah’s breath came short, her heartbeat racing. She looked around, but the moon hung full, casting shadows that only darkened the woods. Was he there? Did he watch…this man who had been assigned to guard her.
A warm breeze ruffled the surface of the pond, sending a shiver of anticipation across her skin. Only here did she have freedom. Only here did peace battle her fears. Sarah slipped the straps of the nightdress off her shoulders, letting the thin garment fall to the ground as she stepped closer to the water. No matter, let him guard her virtue. She would not suffer for modesty’s sake…
Just inside the curtain of darkness the sole of a heavy boot sunk into the forest floor as a dagger slipped from it’s sheath…
No, I am not going to start publishing my stories on line, but I thought it would be fun to create a few lines to tease your imagination. Now my writer’s brain has already run off a dozen or so scenarios of what might happen next to this vulnerable heroine. Is this man her protector? A captor? Is she really that bold, or just fooling herself?
Well, naked is always a good way to find out…
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May 19, 2008 at 12:43 pm (Romance, Writing)
Tags: erotic romance, characters, sexy stories, erotic stories, love, talking dirty
Language is always important in stories, especially in erotic stories. One wrong word and poof, there goes the mood. And in the historical tales I tell, words are extremely important. Not only do they need to be as historically accurate as I can get, but they need to fit the character’s situation, experience, and eventually growth.
There is a great deal that an historical, virginal heroine is not going to know. Not until the hero teaches her (always a fun part to write). And my heroes are always very, very alpha male in the department of sex. But that doesn’t mean you should count the heroine out - just give her a little time to learn and she’ll teach him a thing or two…
Another aspect where language comes into play is in each character’s point of view. No one is going to think in a contemporary manner any more than speak in one. I’m not just talking about physical surroundings, but also in terms of historical setting. Certainly not all of our contemporary ‘terms’ were used hundreds of years ago, but some were. And this is important because inside your character’s POV is where there world starts to change, or their perception of the world at least. It is where they rationalize all the irrational things they want. It is where they begin to rationalize love.
Language plays a huge roll in setting the level of eroticism a story will have. We all think many more things than we say or share, especially in the heat of the moment. So don’t be afraid to let your characters think, or say what they need to in order to reach your reader. Now, who’s up for a little dirty talk…
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May 14, 2008 at 12:21 pm (Romance, Writing)
Tags: Add new tag, erotic romance, love, sexy stories, turn-ons, women
A simple question, with a complicated answer. Ask any woman what turns her on and the answer you get will vary on any given day. Some days we feel empowered, bold. Other days we are shy and a little…hesitant.
So how’s a man supposed to know which woman he is approaching?
Read the signs. Now men are very visual creatures. Just looking at a woman they find attractive will get them in the mood. A woman, however, is different. She comes round by way of emotion. You know, those tricky, slippery little ups and downs men try to avoid. A woman’s desire is most often tied to her heart. Make a woman feel special, touch her heart and well you just might get to touch…
Now I’m not saying flowers and chocolate, though once in a while surprises are nice. The guys who have the most success with women are the ones who observe, learn to read her moods, and then distract her from her daily worries. Some men can make a woman feel like she is the only woman on the planet. He holds her gaze - at all times. It doesn’t matter who else is in that restaurant or at that party, to him, she is the only one there - and the most beautiful thing he’s ever laid eyes on. He’s attentive and confident, and his body language says so. That’s the guy who’ll touch her heart every time.
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May 13, 2008 at 12:47 pm (Romance, Writing)
Tags: Romance, Writing, sexy stories, erotic stories
I’m not sure what image most people have of a writer’s life, but it’s not usually reality. The duties of most professions are widely known, nurses, teachers, doctors, lawyers. But somehow, ’author’ seems to have garnered an air of mystery.
And erotic romance author…
Well, let me tell you…that job title is not one people expect. However, it is one of which I am very proud. I love being able to create characters and worlds, and explore the depths of emotion that arise between two people.
Now put sex into that mix and watch the world tilt and spin. Whether one is willing to admit it or not, ‘watching’ sex through the mind’s eye is very exciting, and having those characters touch your heart is just plain erotic.
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May 12, 2008 at 12:40 pm (Romance, Writing)
Tags: erotic romance, love, sexy stories
If you’ve ever read a romance novel, you’ll likely understand - the more romance in your life, the more sex. For women, most of the time, sex is not so much about the pleasure or the adventure. It is about emotion. It is about a desire to be loved and wanted, sheltered in the company of another heart.
And that is the romance novel’s biggest appeal. Romance novels are tales of safety and love, away from all the chaos and uncertainty in the outside world - a safe harbor for the heart. They are stories of certainty. My stories tell of men who will sacrifice anything and everything in the face of losing the one woman who has ever set his heart to racing, made his blood boil, calmed his soul, all in the span of her smile. She is the redemption for every distasteful act he’s ever had to commit. She is how he will find a way to live with himself.
Now add in sex, and the deepest emotions and connections, the vulnerabilty and fears between two people rise to the surface of the page to reach the heart of the reader. We’ve all felt exposed and raw at times. And as a writer, that is when my characters tend to tumble into intimacy - out of need, want, or just plain lust. And then comes the whirlwind of love. And forever after.
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